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Apple’s Outrageous Option Fee
Brought my 2019 Macbook Pro to our local Apple store today to see if I could trade it in and buy a new shiny laptop. They offered me about 15% of what I’d paid, but couldn’t or wouldn’t allow me to keep it until my new computer arrived. Why? Policy.
If I kept my old computer in the meantime, Apple wouldn’t or couldn’t guarantee that I would receive the amount I was quoted today. Worse yet, they couldn’t or wouldn’t provide me with a reasonable delivery date, which meant I could be without a laptop for several weeks.
I’ve been a customer of Apple for a quarter century. At times our relationship has been contentious and as I grow older, I see beyond the smoke and mirrors and the company’s legendary distortion field. Nowadays, I even hesitate to visit an Apple Store. The experience is just too superficial and though beautifully camouflaged, it’s all about sales, sales, and more sales. None of the sales folks I’ve spoken to in recent years know much about real-world creativity and can’t provide anything but well-rehearsed clichés from the company’s sales manual.
Back in the day, when Apple computers were more or less reserved for creative types, there was an unspoken alliance, and most of us who used their machines followed the company’s progress carefully and prayed that Apple would survive. If for no other reason, than so that we wouldn’t be forced to use an erratically behaving mouse connected to a dreadfully dreary PC running the clunky Windows operating system. If I had to take a guess, I’d say our company has spent at least SEK600-700k on Apple stuff over the years.
Yeah, I’m clearly still pissed off about my effing option key conundrum. I even told today’s rep about how Apple wants to charge me SEK9000 to repair said key (one of the keyboard’s 78 keys!). He just smiled without openly admitting the absurdity of such a ridiculous fee. The environmental implications of having to replace the entire keyboard, the aluminum keyboard plate, and the battery because of a single, plastic key is certainly solid evidence that Apple is just as cynical about the environment as every other corporation. The company’s PR is just much better at being ostentatiously disingenuous.
Or maybe I’m wrong. Maybe the option key isn’t made out of simple plastic after all. Perhaps it’s actually made from an amalgamation of unicorn tears and gold. That might explain things…
Day Twenty-Five
Twenty-five days of sobriety. Perhaps not a significant enough milestone to make it worth mentioning here. I think so. Even if I’ve never thought of myself as someone with a dependency on booze, most people I know don’t, I do see each new day where alcohol is not part of a routine dose of escapism, as a small, yet appreciatable milestone.
Most of my friends have yet to comment on this ongoing sobriety challenge of mine. Some have questioned it in passing with a causal “but why?”. I think I’m still in a slightly defensive stage where whatever I reply probably sounds preachy. So be it. Like most topics that can be construed as not somehow reinforcing the image of the always resilient tough guy, any mention of even potentially misusing alcohol is still considered taboo. Especially here in the land of Vikings.
Last night while lounging on our front patio watching the sunset and hundreds of people pass by on foot, bicycle, and scooter, I tried to envision what it would be like with a glass of chilled bourbon in my hand. I tried to remember how the euphoria (or, in everyday parlance, the release) felt when it set in and how my body and mind would have sunken into a pleasantly semi-catatonic state.
I keep telling myself that I haven’t stopped drinking just to see how long I can remain sober. I certainly want to beat my old buddy Lars’s sobriety record of 44 days. But this challenge is about something more significant that I have yet to figure out how to express in words. For now, I’m enjoying the challenge of being in charge and not a hostage with Stockholm syndrome.
Malmö Gallery Weekend 2023
I’m honored to have once again been invited to exhibit my art during Malmö’s annual Gallery Weekend September 22-24 at what is arguably the event’s most beautiful venue, the grand exhibit hall at the former City Hall (Rådhuset).
This year, I’ll be showing three rather large acrylic paintings on canvas. I hope to see you there!
#gallerihelg #artforlife #paintings #malmöartscene #art #artist #acrylicpainting #creativityeveryday
#malmögallerihelg2023
Farewell Rhodes
We’re rounding off a truly sublime week in Greece. A week packed with exercise, delicious Mediterranean food, and plenty of sunshine. We’ve also got a lot of work done while on Rhodes. Charlotte has added a plethora of inspiring content to her popular websites and I’ve miraculously finished writing the bulk of a chapter in a new book –a memoir of sorts.
It’s also been a week with time allocated for contemplation, well-needed soul-searching, and interesting chats – primarily with Charlotte, but also with a new, intriguing acquaintance from the UK.
It’s day 20 of sobriety and I am continuing to allow myself plenty of time for introspection and self-interrogation:
• How I should navigate forward? • Do I have the energy and willpower to redefine and reinvent myself again?
• What should I prioritize?
• How do I enjoy life in a more health-promoting way without feeling bored and/or missing the “release” I get from alcohol?
• Do I need to reevaluate relationships that have primarily been based around my willingness to enthusiastically participate in hangover-inducing bouts of boozing?
• Is total abstinence really required here or, am I instead actually capable of having a healthier, more measured relationship with alcohol? Or, is that just devil-speak? Sounds like it.
I seem to be stuck again in the midst of yet another seemingly bottomless quagmire…
But wait! What is that I feel beneath my feet? A boulder? Is it stable enough to stand on for a while, at least until I get my bearings and figure out how to exit this murky swamp?
Yes, I believe it is!
Swimming (again)
I’ve been swimming a lot while here in Greece. Not so much in the ocean, though I’ve done that too. I’ve been swimming laps in the above 25m pool which is nearest our room and dedicated to exercise and not for playing in. I breastswim in one direction and crawl on the return.
In 2019, I spent a couple of months lap swimming in the early mornings at a nice sports club in Da Nang, Vietnam. Like back then, during this morning’s 1000m swim, I sometimes lost track of my laps and probably added at least an additional 100m to my original goal. Which is perfectly fine. But I think I need to invest in a lap counting watch of some kind.
On the Wagon (again)
Here’s a post you’ll either be inspired by or decidedly feel uncomfortable with. Or, both. In any case, it’s brutally honest, so buckle up.
Even if I’ve never been fanatical, there has always been some kind of regular sport activity in my life. When I was young, I swam competitively, and later in life, I played squash, jogged, and boxed. Nowadays, I mostly work out at the gym and when my body permits, I’ll go for a long run.
As an oxymoronic contrast to the above, I’ve also never, ever shied away from partaking in oftentimes excessive indulgence.
These days, as I get older, taking better care of myself by living healthier is clearly gaining traction. And now, after 18 days of 100% sobriety, I can feel tangible evidence of mental and physical benefits.
I’m not talking about visible proof, mind you. It’s more related to sailing through life on a more even keel and being better at discerning and circumnavigating headwinds and identifying storms.
Living in Sweden for the better part of my life has undoubtedly been fantastic in many, many ways. The role alcohol plays in Swedish society is not one of them. And at 60, I’m finally realizing how much better I am without having booze as a crutch or a cushion.
Yes, it’s most certainly boring to not sip on a glass of chilled white wine or drink a cold beer during dinner. And do I miss my daily pour of cheap bourbon while preparing meals in our kitchen.
Thankfully, just like the ridiculous glorification of this ritualistic, masochistic behavior, the buzz I had become so pathetically addicted to is both paling and slowly sliding into my increasingly dusty archives of faded memories.
I moved to Sweden when I was 15 and, as one does, started drinking more or less regularly on weekends when I was about 16. So, that’s what, 45 years, give or take?
I don’t know for how long I’ll be on the wagon this time around. As they say, one day at a time. But so far, so good.
The old wagon is from a visit to Bodie, the famous ghost town in central California. I don’t think there could be a more fitting illustration for this post.
Levante Powered by Playitas
After four days here, I feel inclined to convey that our hotel, Levante Powered by Playitas, which I visited last year and was totally blown away by after a week of intense training, continues to amaze me, and now Charlotte, again in August/September 2023.
The always friendly and helpful staff, the ambitious yet balanced schedule, the professional level of instructors for all classes and supervised activities we’ve tried so far, the high-quality gear and equipment, not to mention how well-kept the facilities are, have really impressed us both.
And then there’s the hotel’s restaurant where we’ve been eating deliciously tasting and beautifully presented food for both breakfast and dinner – always serviced by a team of friendly and competent servers.
I don’t want to sound like a mouthpiece, and I am not getting any discount or payola for saying all this, but I just can’t recommend this place enough. It’s that good. And if you know me well enough and how much I travel, that I stay in about 25-30 different hotels every year, you’ll also know that I don’t give out this much praise very often. Levante + Apollo clearly has a kudos-worthy management and operations team in place. The hotel’s location isn’t bad either!
Our Neighborhood Olive Grove
We walked through this nearby arid olive grove yesterday evening just before dinner. With their thick, twisted, and dense trunks, I think olive trees are among the most soulful of all perennial plants.
Maybe I think so because I also happened to be almost addicted to olives. Among the many options at the hotel’s expansive buffet are several kinds of juicy, marinated olives.
Full Moon in Greece (and elsewhere)
As of this writing, an almost blindingly bright full moon hovers steadily above the coast of Afantou, the village where our hotel is located. The full moon above was actually captured in Malmö a while back with a giant lens I no longer own nor have the shoulders to hold up toward the evening sky.
A Homage & Classic Recipe: The Greek Salad
I’m kinda sore today. Not terribly sore, though. Not sore enough to keep me from putting my 60-year-old body through yet another sweat-drenching Core class. I’m such a masochist.
Yesterday, I started out with an early hour session in the gym, then a 1000-meter swim, and at 3:00 pm, the aforementioned Core class. Finally, before dinner, Charlotte and I went on a mountain bike ride to the nearby seaside village Kolymbia where I showed Charlotte the beautiful orthodox chapel above the harbor.
Back at the hotel and showered for the fifth time, I was absolutely famished. Neither of us is eating lunch this week, so among several other buffet treats, I enjoyed a generous serving of a classic Greek salad from the above-pictured tray.
There’s something about the Greek salad that goes mostly unnoticed outside of Greece. Even though it’s so simple and reasonably affordable to make – and always beautifully colorful and flavorful – a Greek salad is remarkably hard to locate unless you’re at a Greek, a Greek Cypriot, or, possibly a Bulgarian-Albanian restaurant.
At home or whenever we spend considerable time abroad, I’ll typically serve a Greek salad as a main dish for dinner once a week. Unfortunately, in Asia, Kalamata olives and decent feta cheese are hard to find and usually very pricey. I’m hoping that one day, just like what happened with avocados, olives, and feta will also be produced locally.
Here’s a recipe for an authentic Greek salad, known here in Greece as “Horiatiki” (χωριάτικη σαλάτα):
Ingredients:
Optional Ingredients (for garnish):
How I make it:
Spinning in Greece
Back in Rhodes again. Second visit in about a year. Chose the very same hotel as last time since most amenities and facilities are focused on training and health. If it works, don’t fix it, right?
There’s a long list of training alternatives here and they are all well-organized and led by a cheery crew of young, competent Brits, Swedes, and Norwegians.
Far from all guests have star quality, ourselves included, but the hotel itself has four, and as far as I can tell, upkeep is top-notch. Our goal is to partake in three separate activities per day, two organized (classes) and an independent activity (biking, hiking, swimming, gyming).
Today I joined a bunch of imposingly athletic tweens for an intense spinning class down by the beach (above photo). It was actually my first ever spinning class so I’m assuming I’ll be walking like Frankenstein tomorrow morning. Later, after a 5k walk in the baking sun, Charlotte and I took an afternoon Masterclass in Yoga Balance.
It’s day 14 of sobriety and even if I’m actually here to produce a story about the concept of healthy holiday-making for Charlotte’s website Hotell Addict, this week will likely be the easiest one so far to be teetotaling. I imagine myself never drinking again. Then again, I imagine mysel doing all kinds of unreasonable stuff that never happens. One day at a time…
I love Greece. I have ever since that very first visit to Corfu in 1983. Greeks are laid-back folk and if you ask me, Greece is by the country around the Med with the tastiest and arguably healthiest cuisine. Sorry, Itally. Sorry Spain, Portugal and France.
The hotel’s beach kinda sucks but the restaurant’s enormous buffet is just stunning and packed with wonderful traditional Greek specialties (mostly vegetarian) and loaded with marinated olives and several different kinds of feta. Cheeses.
Back on Track (and on the wagon)
After an intense few days discovering Warsaw, it felt wonderful to start this week off with an hour-long workout at the gym. First, a 30-minute run on a treadmill, 30 minutes on a wide range of mostly upper-body-focused machines, and then a cooling swim in the sea.
I’ve been sober for 12 days now. Not trying to break any record and it’s really anybody’s guess how long I’ll be on the wagon this time around. But for each day that passes, I feel curiously stronger and more resilient when the inevitable thought or, temptation to have a beer, a glass of wine, or a tumbler with bourbon and soda arrives. Still haven’t opened any of the bottles of bourbon, whisky, or Champagne given to me by generous friends during our last gathering here in Malmö. Don’t miss the casual sipping and definitely not the binge drinking at all.
Even more fascinating is that I seem to have gained a nice buffer, a cushion of sorts, to help me escape from the grips of frustration and stress.
Last Night. Blacknuss Concert In Malmö
As a very last but nevertheless wonderfully memorable birthday present, Charlotte had bought tickets to last night’s concert with one of my all-time favorite Swedish bands, Blackness. The last time I saw them live was in Lund some 23 years ago, quite possibly the night before Elle was conceived…
Old buddy Lars Hadders joined us last night and today we’re all a bit fatigued from the evening’s dancing and singing. I’m not much of a concert-goer these days, but last night’s show was excellent and not once did I think of myself as a 60-year-old dude dancing to music from my youth.
Salad Craving
This is the salad the Raboff Wolfpack ate last night for dinner. Right now, Elle is on her way to Spain where for a few months she’ll continue her university studies remotely. So proud of her courage and willingness to take on a challenge.
Unless I’m in Greece, a good choice of different salads is surprisingly hard to find when I’m traveling and it’s usually the first kind of food I crave when I get back home. I just remembered that in the 1980s, while I was still living in Göteborg, I actually worked for a few months at a salad bar called Leonis.
Back from Warsaw
Captured this old factory yesterday while serendipitously walking around in the Praga District of Warsaw, Poland. Such a great feeling to just stumble onto stuff like this. For a good chunk of yesterday’s walk, I was talking with a friend and barely realized that I’d walked over 18k. With this morning’s light 6k run along the Vistula River, I’ve clocked over 90 kilometers during the 3,5 days I was in the Polish capital. And what a great city it turned out to be! The cuisine, friendly folks, and a history that reads like a suspense novel, make Warsaw easily one of Eastern Europe’s shiniest pearls.
Warszawa
Back in Eastern Europe again. I felt it was time to discover Warszawa for my third visit to Poland. Staying at a hotel down a hill from Old Town, near the Vistula River and the impressive Swietokrzyski Bridge.
After previous visits to Krakow and Gdansk, a visit to the country’s capital seemed almost obligatory (says he who has never visited Washington D.C.!).
Interesting fact: About 85% of Warsaw’s historic center was destroyed by the Nazis and meticulously reconstructed in the years after WWII.
While here, I’ll be focused on a new, somewhat autobiographical book project and dedicating my time before noon working on it.
Reconnecting with Garth
This is Garth, my buddy from the old neighborhood in L.A. shot during our city-wide, walk ‘n talk in wonderful Copenhagen the week before last. I only got to show him a small portion of all that the Danish capital has to offer, but for what’s it worth, I think Garth thoroughly enjoyed what he saw, drank, and ate.
We had reconnected a couple of weeks prior to Garth’s trip to Europe (via WhatsApp) and even if there might have been a smidgeon of apprehension before seeing each other face-to-face for the first time in almost half a century, once we did meet at his hotel here in our Malmö neighborhood, it was only mere seconds, not even a minute, until we synched seamlessly. And so began a week-long journey full of laughter, reminiscence, earnest conversations covering an astonishingly wide range of topics, and some sightseeing in Copenhagen, Malmö, and Stockholm.
I think my smooth re-connection with Garth was in part thanks to our ancient friendship from the 1970s when we both attended Rosewood Elementary and Bancroft Jr High. But it was also in part due to us having childhoods that were periodically dysfunctional and traumatic.We were raised by single mothers and both Garth and I had fathers that deserted early in our lives. And just like my grandmother Agnes played a significant role in my life whenever I was sent off to stay with her and Grandpa Eskil in Sweden, Garth’s maternal grandparents actually lived with his family on Croft Ave during his childhood and teen years.
I would argue that because we both lacked the father element in our youngest years, the void or absence of a male role model might still have a consequential impact on who we are today as 60-year-old men. Yet, for all our shortcomings and epic fuckups as parents, we both agreed about being much better fathers to our children than our dads ever were to us.
In her brilliant song “Norman Fucking Rockwell“, Lana del Rey sings, “God damn man-child…”. Not when it really counts, but a part of me can indeed relate to the description of being immature, lovable trouble.
Our emotional commonalities, history. love of movies, music, food, and travel all made for a remarkable and memorable reunion that I will forever cherish and keep close to my heart.
Hiking on Kullaberg
As part of commemorating our wedding day on August 15th, Charlotte and I went hiking up to Kullaberg, a peninsula that stretches out from the mainland with several really nice nature trails and panoramic views of the sea and the village Mölle below.
It drizzled for most of our hike but we didn’t let the rain bother us from reaching the iconic lighthouse on the top.
As we neared Mölle on the return, the clouds scattered and a bright, warm August sun came out. We eventually went for a swim in the sea, then sipped on chilled Champagne before a wonderful dinner at the hotel. After dessert, we went for a walk in the harbor and I took my drone out for a spin above the village.
Those Were The Days!
Sadly, I missed yesterday’s Those Were The Days Reunion in Göteborg. That’s not to say my thoughts weren’t with my old buddies. Especially after each of the near real-time updates I was sent during their evening.
Though we initially met and became friends way back in the 1970s, our bond has withstood the test of time and I’ve only recently begun appreciating that there is tangible comfort in growing older with friends from one’s youth.
Since we’re all inevitably heading towards the final chapters of our storied lives, being in the company of old buddies just might make the ride into Vallhall a little less ominous.
Bback to Health
I haven’t tasted a decent avocado in a long time. It’s as if the avocados imported to Sweden are the least avocado-tasting variant on the planet. Which probably means they are the cheapest to import and by implication the most profitable to sell. Screwed again. The avocado we had as a topping on tonight’s poke bowl was more or less tasteless, despite salt and lemon. The texture was fine, but there was just no flavor.
The giant avocado above is from Vietnam and I bought it for about SEK5 at a local market in Hoi An, a beautiful town in the central coastal part of the country. I’m old enough to remember when it was almost impossible to get a hold of avocados in Southeast Asia. Then came the avocado toast and the rest is history…
We lived on the outskirts of Hoi An for about a month and though we ate our dinners at a few different places around the neighborhood, breakfast was always something we made at the apartment.
I am slowly nursing my way back to healthy living again after what seems to be several months of extensive intemperance (again). It’s been a fun ride, for sure. But at 60, the physical and mental recovery time is increasingly wearing and tearing.
I got up early today and weighed whether or not to go to the gym or take a run along the beach. The weather conditions were optimal, so I chose the latter. It was a super-slow jog, yet I still somewhat miraculously managed to run 12.5k. I’ve been paying the price all day with pain in just about every joint and every limb. But the jog certainly helped disperse the clouds hovering above me and I’ve gotten a lot done today.