About “The Aging Man’s Survival Guide” Book
Monday. Sixty-One
Sixty-one today. I feel relatively indifferent to the number itself. I suppose I am too focused on making my age even more irrelevant and ensuring that my sixties are the most creatively challenging and productive of all my decades.
A little over a year ago, on the cusp of my 60th birthday, Charlotte – my valiant defender, creative partner, and endlessly patient wife of nearly 26 years – came up with another brilliant idea. Instead of wailing and whining about how tough it was turning 60, a questionable milestone if there ever was one, she suggested I write a book about the most profound physical, psychological, emotional, and sexual experiences I felt I was going through.
After considering the concept for a few weeks, I realized that writing a book about male aging from a deeply personal perspective was going to be hard as hell – but that if I succeeded, it could prove to be immensely therapeutic. Better yet, such a book might even help other men know that they’re not alone in navigating the murky quagmire and oftentimes disruptive process of aging.
Like many men, I’ve been rejecting that I’m getting older longer than I care (or, dare) to admit. But despite being a hopeless man-child, emotionally stuck sometime in the late 1980s, as today’s cranky, creaky, and confused 61-year-old, there’s no credibility in denying all the aspects aging has on my everyday life.
And folks, put your seatbelts on because I’m brutally honest about this stuff in the new book.
With a few liberating exceptions, most of my male friends don’t want to discuss their own aging experiences. At least not with me. I’ve tried, but to them, it seems almost taboo – as if talking about it would somehow make them seem weak, unmanly, and less attractive. If you do read “The Aging Man’s Survival Guide,” you’ll find a few solid theories on why this is.
I’ve even dedicated an entire chapter to male “Health Secrecy,” where I discuss why many aging men continue to be so guarded and preoccupied with projecting a level of machismo that just makes us look more antiquated than attractive.
Youthfulness is not an attitude, it’s a mindset.
I started writing the 220-page book in September 2023 and finished the final chapter, a rather lengthy epilogue, in May 2024. The new book is dedicated to Charlotte Raboff, Elle Agnes, as well as multitalented, endlessly stoical Art Director David Pahmp.
It’s available in both paperback and for immediate download at these fine bookstores:
Amazon.com:
Bokus.com
https://www.bokus.com/bok/9789198852158/the-aging-mans-survival-guide/
Amazon.se:
Apple:
https://books.apple.com/se/book/the-aging-mans-survival-guide/id6504995204?l=en-GB
Barnes & Noble:
BOL (Holland):
https://www.bol.com/be/nl/p/the-aging-man-s-survival-guide/9300000183052731
Decitre (France):
https://www.decitre.fr/ebooks/the-aging-man-s-survival-guide-9789198852158_9789198852158_10020.html
Rakutan (Japan):
https://books.rakuten.co.jp/rk/e5bcd3514267372c8bb1f51e118fc33d/
